It is with incredible relief and excitement that Julia and I can announce that we are expecting our second child in early February, 2016. Today we are at the 20.3 weeks mark, and with that we feel safe enough to share this publicly. From our latest ultrasound, signs are pointing to there being a good chance that our next child to join our son Henry will be a little girl. Henry is such a cool dude, and we can’t wait to get to know our daughter in only a few months time.
With this excitement flows other emotions too. Miscarriage is something that is rarely talked about, and it was with considerable sadness that we struggled through three separate miscarriages in an incredibly short period of time. You begin to dread going to ultrasound appointments (where they used to be exciting when we were naive with Henry) – fearing some morsel of bad news. Every time the bad news hit us like a tonne of bricks, bringing with it sadness and disappointment about losing something you desperately want. In that instant it feels like the child has gone from being real to an apparition – a figment containing our hopes, excitement, and future, that never quite was. You reset your dreams once more, and hope like hell it’ll never happen again, and then, you are back at square one.
To others that struggle through this, we have no words of wisdom or advice. Nothing can quite heal the struggle you must go through, and the sadness you must endure. All you are ever given is statistics, and rarely do these make the situation better. All that can be said is to see the positives as best you can, and don’t give up.
And now, the obligatory photo:
It’s been a really, really long time since I used my personal blog for something personal, but I guess there is a time and a place for that – and it’s now! 🙂
People are wondering why I’m not going to JavaOne this year. The answer is: my wife and I are expecting our first child late December 2013! This will be our first child and whilst I’d really like to be at JavaOne, being home is more important this year. I’ll follow along with the JavaOne announcements via twitter, and I may also take the opportunity to use my blog to bore you with more personal news items! 🙂
Here’s photographic proof (click for bigger pictures, if for some reason you are interested in ultrasound photos of my future child):
It’s been a very hectic few months, and I really apologise for not posting more frequently to keep people up to date on things.
Since the last update:
- Julia has finished her studies and is now a fully-qualified vet.
- Julia and I have shifted from Palmerston North to Thames in the Coromandel region of New Zealand.
- Julia is now employed at a local vet clinic as a small animal vet.
- We have purchased our first home.
You can still contact me on:
- My cellphone at 0211 089 038.
- My new home phone number is (07) 984 9115.
- My new postal address is 217A Waikiekie Road, Thames, 3500.
Recent hail storm in Palmy – the whitest I’ve seen it in my 23 years. Note my arm – it’s only a few days after my surgery and was still in the plaster cast. Also, apologies for looking bedraggled – I was spending most of my days after the operation sleeping – and I had only just woken up.
I just thought an update would be good, so I’ll quickly outline what I’m up to below:
- I had surgery on my left arm last week. It is now out of the plaster cast and in a splint. I am completely one-handed at the moment, and probably for the next few months. The surgery was a tendon-transfer, i.e. attaching working tendons to parts of my hand that didn’t work due to the nerve damage further up my arm. Now my thumb has a new tendon pulling it up, and all four fingers share a new tendon. Lots of physio is my future.
- I’m working on the Centruflow 3.1 release, which despite this delay and subsequent slow down, is still on target for a mid-September release. Cliche I know, but this release will be the best ever – and by far the most complete – we’re putting a lot of emphasis on the things surrounding the software, such as documentation, help systems, online customer support systems, improved legal structures, etc. Of course, at the same time the software has come on leaps and bounds since our last 6-monthly release (3.0) in March at CeBIT.
- Centruflow Ltd purchased me a new top of the line Dell XPS laptop, which took me a while to migrate over to, but has considerably helped in developing Centruflow. The wife happily took ownership of my last laptop, a still-decent Dell Inspiron.
I think that’s the main gist of things.